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I find this man incredibly shallow and disrespectful. Will he also do this to Lorraine (have a gal on the sidelines so to speak) in case Lorraine doesn’t work out to HIS expectations? With the comment he made “if things don’t work out, I will call you” would have most women thinking what a jerk!
Conveniently, Lorraine was available-wonder how much respect for her is going on?
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Until then, it’s all speculation, hope, fantasy, desire, wishful thinking, and potential. What I’m writing about is what you make all of this dating stuff MEAN. remember the phone session we had last month where we were looking at one of the guys who had written to me on Match.
See, you’re identifying each man as the problem here. After all, if 50% of all guys are going to disappoint, then this behavior is utterly predictable. But then after exchanging several emails and a few phone conversations, he told me he was dating someone else and that he would call if things didn’t work out, and I was a bit upset by that. She doesn’t assume that they’re “together” because they kissed.
Let’s be real – If you only called someone you had sex or ‘romantic involvement’ with occasionally, would you really think that you were 1) that interested in them and that 2) they’re a priority?
Unfortunately we seem to have dropped our standards of what a relationship or someone being interested constitutes. We want to be easy going and the last thing we want to do is scare them off by attempting to clarify where we stand.
You can overrreact to each seemingly personal slight, or you can deal with it in a graceful and detached manner like Lorraine. I couldn’t disagree with Kristy more as far as her logic for not giving the guy Lorraine went on a date with a 2nd chance.
I currently have 4 or 5 “backups” because I’m focusing most of my attention on one guy at the moment.I’ve told a couple prospects the honest truth of what my delay has been in scheduling a date, and they all take it in stride asking me to contact them if and when the guy I’m focusing on doesen’t work out.Why is it that men take this stuff objectively but often women tend to get “offended” at the same information?Just because you get this blog emailed to you doesn’t mean you’re on my mailing list.My mailing list is a completely separate newsletter with completely separate advice that goes out every Tuesday.All I AM saying is that based on your own experience, a high percentage of men disappoint. After all, you ever have a good date with a guy but not feel strongly enough to see him again? THIS is what I see over and over and over again Your solution is not to change men. Your solution is to understand that rejection and failure happens to EVERYONE. Nonetheless, we went out for drinks and dinner tonight. So although we spent a long time getting to know one another and seemed to have mutual attraction, and rather powerful chemistry (ok, we kissed! But in this case, I would be REALLY surprised if we didn’t go out again. What I love about this email is how it illustrates Lorraine’s growth as a single woman in the dating world. Ask yourself if you’d be as positive, patient, forgiving and confident as she was. He’s not into sports at all, it was that he liked THE STORY.Too short, too fat, too old, too nice, too boring, not enough money, too many other dating options? She didn’t get derailed when the guy disappeared the first time. If not – and if you’d like to approach dating like Lorraine, you can reach me here. Warmest wishes and much love, Evan His biggest crime, apparently, was that he met another woman first and was honest enough to – gasp! I have you to thank for that, I would never have thought about that had I not listened to your advice. Particularly timely given that dude that I had such a fun time with and am annoyingly so attracted to has yet to call again.Being a little hard to get certainly couldn’t hurt – instead, Lorraine appeared desperate?Was this guy leading her on and then dropped the bombshell that he was dating someone? -Kristy As you know, reasonable people can agree to disagree.The only thing that guy is guilty of is being HONEST.If he had made up a lie and said “I can’t see you right now because I’m taking care of my sick mother”…